I want to speak to Women today.
Let’s breakdown the difference between Love and Obsession. Webster’s definition of love is, an intense feeling of deep affection. A deep romantic and emotional attachment. A form of romantic affection that is pure and wholly positive, not just based on lust.
I can go on and on but you get the point I’m making about the definition of Love.
Now let’s look at the definition of “Obsession”
Compulsive preoccupation with a fixed idea or person. Unreasonable idea or emotional attachment.
I was listening to the news today and a story came on air about a woman who’s husband threw acid in her face while she was at work. She survived the attack but will have to undergo years of reconstructive facial and very painful surgical procedures. She told the story about how he began the relationship. He started out being very loving and caring. She thought she found the man of her dreams.
The dream soon turned into a nightmare. He began isolating her from her family and friends. He would tell her that he loved her so much that he wanted her all to himself. He had to be constantly in her presence. He became increasingly jeoulous and began accusing her of infidelity. Soon after the violence began. Of course it was always her fault. After a couple of years of his violent behavior and his non stop apologies, she summoned up the courage to leave him.
On that fateful day of the attack he told her that if he could not have her no would else would either. As sad as this story is, it is all to familiar. It is so easy to confuse the difference between love and obsession. It happens everyday in every city and every country. You want to believe that the behavior is because he loves you.
Let me break it down for you in three words. “LOVE NEVER HURTS”
The first clue here is him wanting to isolate you from family and friends. This is not about love, it’s about Control. If he loves you he will want you to have healthy relationships in your life. If you see this behavior, run don’t walk to the nearest exit. If you feel that you are in an obessive relationship reach out to family and friends. If there is no one in close proximity to you, reach out to a local hotline in your city for help and guidance. Do not try and take on this type of personality on your own it can be very dangerous.
If you need help, contact the National Domestic Violence hotline @ 1800 799-7233. The website address is the .www.thehotline.org. There you will find valuable information that can help you safely remove yourself from that environment.
I hope this helps someone. Remember there is nothing to be ashamed of and you are not alone. Help is a phone call away.