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I hear so often from couples that they don’t feel they know their spouse any more. You Changed, is what I often hear. You are not the same person I married. Well, let me let you in on a little secret. None of us are the same person we were when we first were married. I certainly am not the same young girl I was when I married my husband 40 years ago and he is not the same man he was back then. As we age we do evolve and grow and that’s a good thing. If you are the same person you were 5 or more years ago then you are not evolving. Growth and change are a good thing as long as you both grow and evolve together. As I look back on my life I realize as a wife, mother and a woman I have definitely experienced both growth and change and all for the better. So don’t fight it, change is inevitable. Embrace it and continue communicating with your partner so that the change brings you closer and not furthur apart.

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Communication Tip # 3

A really good exercise for continuing to learn about your partner is one that I call the “did you know” tool. The purpose of this exercise is to share with your partner something they may or may not know about. You can start out by saying did you know ________ fill in the blank.

It can something as simple as, did you know that I hate choclate ice cream. Or maybe, did you know that I wanted to be an actress when I was younger. It can anything that you want to share. You can make it silly or serious as long as your are sharing something about yourself.

This is another way to keep the lines of communiation open. Remember, effective communication can make or break a relationship.

Happy Communicating and keep Talking