House Cleaning (whose job is it)

I recently spoke with a young woman who is newly married. She asked me a question about house cleaning. Both she and her husband work full time. She wants to hire a cleaning lady one day a month to help out with the chores. Her husband feels it’s a waste of money and feels that…

Read More

To Work or not Work

To work  or not work, that is the question most mother’s ask themselves. Understandably, not all mother’s have the choice to be a stay at home mom. For some women working outside the home is the only option. If this is your circumstance, I would, as in my book suggest that you secure as much…

Read More

I’ve Lost that loving feeling

I was watching a popular TV show tonight about a happy family. Each week the show surrounds a couple and their happy marriage. Tonight was a little different, as a matter of fact there was a hugh difference. The couple found themselves at odds with each other on just about every issue. They seemed to…

Read More

Change

I hear so often from couples that they don’t feel they know their spouse any more. You Changed, is what I often hear. You are not the same person I married. Well, let me let you in on a little secret. None of us are the same person we were when we first were married.…

Read More

Communication -VS- Social Media

In this age of Social Media it’s becoming more difficult to connect with our partner. While I admit I do enjoy surfing the net and updating my facebook page we are loosing the art of just having a verbal personal conversation. Set aside a time in the evening or during the day to disconnect from…

Read More

Communication Tip # 3

A really good exercise for continuing to learn about your partner is one that I call the “did you know” tool. The purpose of this exercise is to share with your partner something they may or may not know about. You can start out by saying did you know ________ fill in the blank. It…

Read More

Communication Tip # 2

Ok, we have already established the importance of using the right tone of voice when communcating so now lets talk about how to effectively express your feelings. When you find yourself at an impass with your partner and neither one of you are hearing the other, not just listening but hearing each other, try this…

Read More

Communication Tip # 1

Remember when you are having an argument with your partner always use your indoor voice. Speak as though your are in a public venue. 10% of arguments are due to a difference of opinion. 90% are due to the wrong tone of voice. You can prevent an argument from escalating into an all out war…

Read More

Communication, are you talking?

“Communication is the key to a good relationship. Two people can be in the same relationship and see it in two different ways.” Remember, it’s not just about you and your viewpoint alone anymore. There are two of you with two different opinions. Check out furure posts for tips and exercises to help you have…

Read More

Communication, can we talk

The key to any good relationship is effective communication. Talking and communicating are not the same.  Comunication requires two people who are willing to listen and understand the other person viewpoint. While you may not agree, you can come to an understanding and find middle ground. Check out future post for tips on how to…

Read More